Sarah and Zia were in their late 30s when they discovered they were unable to have a child naturally. Sarah and Zia met when Sarah was working abroad and Zia moved to the UK to live with Sarah permanently. As Zia is of Asian heritage they initially considered overseas adoption but after some consideration, they decided to embark instead on the domestic adoption route and made an application with Lancashire’s Adoption Service.
They were eventually approved for siblings aged up to 8 years and were matched with sisters who were also dual heritage – their birth mother was white British and their father was Asian. The children had been waiting for an adoptive family for a significant period of time.
After a period of introductions the couple were excited to finally be able to bring the girls home but it was stressful. The eldest child struggled and it took nearly four years for the girls to properly settle in.
Now, six years down the road the couple hope that they are assisting the girls to understand what happened to them and to deal with any crisis. They recognise as adopters you can’t change the past but you can influence the future. They have continued to receive post-adoption training and support from Lancashire and have been put in touch with other adopters in a similar situation.
Children and families depicted in these stories are not real children or adopters but are developed using the experiences of staff working on adoption to demonstrate real situations.
Thank you to Lancashire County Council for providing us with this case study from their website: lancashire.gov.uk/adoption